You don’t need an orgasm to enjoy sex. But if you don’t allow yourself to learn how to come with your partner, you’re neglecting your right to pleasure. Therefore, today’s guide from the clinical sexologist features the best sex positions for orgasms.
But first, did you know there are some essential differences between a male and female orgasm? Most importantly, a female orgasm is more powerful than a male orgasm and lasts much longer. In addition, upon climax, your brain releases oxytocin, making you feel more connected to your partner.
And it’s just the tip of the iceberg. Vagina owners can achieve different orgasms – nipple orgasms and cervical orgasms. You name it. But let’s not aim that high just yet. Below are some positions you’re probably familiar with, except this time, you should focus on activating all your senses and concentrate on pleasing yourself.
1. Missionary With CAT
Like everything, the key to good sex is starting small and gradually increasing the pleasure. Therefore, I decided to begin with a missionary variation where you include a technique called CAT. While you might think missionary is boring, this alternative is the perfect way to spice up foreplay.
CAT stands for the Coital Alignment Technique, and it’s a technique that makes it easier to orgasm if you’re struggling to come without clitoral stimulation. What CAT does is create friction. In addition, the penetration uses just the tip of your partner’s penis, enough to ignite your senses. From there, you can move on to the other sex positions for the female orgasm mentioned below.
How To Do It
- Get into the missionary position and have your partner stay on top of you, slightly higher than in the standard position. Ideally, his chest should align with your shoulders.
- Then, he enters the vaginal canal with just the penis tip, so the shaft rubs against your clitoris (Located under the clitoral hood).
2. Spooning
Spooning may belong to the ‘lazy Sunday sex’ category, but if done right, it’s a road to some fantastic orgasms. Here’s why it works so well:
- Since it’s a skin-to-skin contact position, it’s highly intimate, which can be highly arousing. Emotional closeness alone might not be enough to make you orgasm, but it might be the secret ingredient if you combine it with the right kind of direct stimulation.
- If gentle thrusting is not your thing, you can tell your partner not to embrace you while you arch your back to ensure deeper penetration. Grab your favorite vibrator for some manual stimulation, and you’ll be on the way to an insane orgasm!
How To Do It
- Both partners lie on their left side, facing the same direction. I think the left side feels better than the right side, but it’s all personal.
- The penetrating partner lies behind the vulva owner, who keeps the right leg (or left leg depending on the side) raised to make it easier for them to slide into position.
3. Laying Doggy (Prone)
The laying doggy style variation allows your partner to bury his genitals entirely inside of you while stimulating the holy grail of orgasm – the G-spot. The G-spot is located on the upper vaginal wall, behind the pubic bone. Once you’ve tried this G-spot position, you’ll see what I’m talking about.
Unfortunately, you might not be able to cum from this position alone since there’s no room to stimulate your clitoris. However, you can always finish your lovemaking session with oral sex or using some sex toys.
How To Do It
- Lie on your stomach with your legs slightly parted.
- Your partner then climbs on top and slides into position.
4. Cowgirl
Do you know the old saying that a female orgasm doesn’t happen in your body but in your head? It’s true! Many women can cum using imagination alone, and studies show that poor body image can lead to decreased sexual desire and arousal.
Now, you might be thinking that cowgirl is way out of your comfort zone. After all, your partner gets to have a view of your entire body, including the face you make when you reach climax. But the woman on the top sexual position also puts you in charge, and you can control the speed and depth of the penetration and bring yourself to orgasm.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t care about your partner’s pleasure, but it’s a great position that puts you first, which can feel super empowering and improve your sexual experience.
How To Do It
- Your partner lies on his back.
- Climb on top of and put your hands on the chest, then slowly sit on the penis (or strap-on).
5. Reverse cowgirl
The reverse cowgirl is similar to the traditional cowgirl; you get to be in charge and experiment with different sensations. In addition, if you need extra stimulation, the reverse cowgirl position is suitable for cervical stimulation that can take your pleasure to the next level.
Additionally, it allows you to focus on yourself – for example, stroke your breast or pay attention to your clitoris with one hand. As for your partner, he will appreciate viewing the action from different angles and having his balls played with.
How To Do It
- Your partner lay down flat on the bed.
- Climb on top of your partner while facing away from him.
- Lean forward and support yourself on your hands for a better angle and balance.
6. The 69
The 69 can be both extraordinarily arousing and off-putting. In theory, it sounds great; you get to please your partner while they please you. On the other hand, putting your genitals right in front of your partner’s face can make you feel self-conscious.
However, I can assure you that you’ll be too busy taking care of their penis to worry about what they might think about your bits. And once you’ve moved past the insecurity stage, 69 is a great way to explore your and your partner’s body.
Pro Tip: To make this position even hotter, ask your partner to switch between oral sex and fingering. You can also experiment with different 69 variations to find an angle that works best for both of you.
How To Do It
- Have your partner lie on his back.
- Position yourself over their body so that both of you can reach each other’s genitals.
- Make sure you stay in the kneeling position (i.e., knees bent) to avoid putting pressure on your partner.
7. Table Top
One reason the tabletop position is so boiling hot is the variety it brings to your sex life. Chances are you don’t have a table in your bedroom and need to move to the living room, which can have a voyeuristic element to it. Whether you close the curtains or leave them playfully open, this position will help you heighten the sensations.
But that scenario isn’t the only thing that makes it such an excellent position for achieving orgasm. You’ll also benefit from deep penetration and looking into your partner’s eyes. Feel free to massage your boobs or rub your clitoris while your partner’s in charge of guiding your hips.
How To Do It
- Lie on the table and have your partner stand between your legs.
- He can put his hands on your hips to make thrusting extra deep.
- Alternatively, you can lie on the edge of the bed and have your partner kneel in front of you.
8. The Bridge
The bridge position is a must-try if you’re an experienced bedroom player. It gives you the whole package: deep penetration, an angle that hits all the right spots, a gentle sex workout, and eye contact. Plus, there’s a lot of space to rub your clit.
While manual clitoral stimulation is a task that requires way too much energy, you can always ask your partner to help you out. Have him please you with his fingers or use a vibrator. In combination with G-spot stimulation, it’s a recipe for a mind-blowing orgasm!
Pro Tip: Try tensing your muscles and releasing them when you’re about to cum. Intense orgasm guaranteed!
How To Do It
- Get into a yoga bridge pose while your partner kneels in front of you. You can straighten your arms and keep your body off the floor or rest your upper back on the floor and lift your hips. Feet flat on the ground.
- Your partner puts his hands on your hips and slides into the position.
Conclusion
Today’s guide will not only help you reach orgasm but strengthen your connection with your partner. Most women learn while being in the middle of the action instead of being taught theory. If you want to enjoy mind-blowing sex, you have to be clear about your desires and expectations.
And, of course, you can try some of the sex positions for better orgasms from the list. Please talk with your partner and tell him what you want. Your clitoris will thank you.
