As has been described in the different types, dildos come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. They have different styles as well as designs to stimulate you in all the right spots. They don’t necessarily have to vibrate to give you pleasure.
To find the perfect dildo, you must first ask yourself: “What do I want it for?” Do you want to try something that could stimulate your G-spot? Then you should try something with a glass or metal material with a slight angle or curve, so it can easily hit the G-spot. If you want to have a dick wand for some anal action, then you need something that’s easy to clean and has a flared base to stop over-insertion.
The Only Checklist You’ll Need
Once you’ve figured out what you want, here are other criteria to choose from:
1. Size
You might be thinking right now, “I want a really big dildo.” Honey, the bigger isn’t always the better. In choosing the right size, you should totally consider what’s already been in your vagina or ass. Don’t try to go wilder and wider. Trust me, you want your vagina or ass to remain intact after this.
Look back to the most pleasurable sexual experience you’ve had whether solo or with a partner. What was pleasurable about it? Was it the sensation of fullness, being stretched by something larger or was it about the pleasure that came from stroking your g-spot? Now take a ruler. Look at how wide 1 inch, 1.5 inch or 2 inches are. They may not be wide enough for you but now I want you to measure your carrots, cucumbers or zucchinis to get a good idea of how that linear width translates to the circumference (for the love of god, please don’t get the idea of using these vegetables for masturbation, okay?)
If you like the feeling of fullness, then I suggest you start with 1.5 inches at most. If you feel like the feeling of it hitting a certain spot and especially if you’re a beginner in sex and sex toys, just go for the ones with the 1 inch or 1.25 inches diameter.
2. Material
In choosing the perfect dildo, the material is important. Yes, the sex toy market has been creative with their dildo-making business. But most dildos are made from four main materials: jelly or elastomer, silicone, softskin or acrylic or glass. Each kind has its own advantages and disadvantages. The more you learn about each one, the easier your choice will be.
Jelly or Elastomer
Jelly dildos are cheap which makes them an affordable option for those who’ve never tried dildos before and would like a “tester” version. They vary in quality and price. The downside is that they’re very difficult to clean since they’re quite porous. As such, it is highly recommended that you use a condom every time you play with a jelly or elastomer dildo. Aside from this, they’re also too flexible and you might be the type who wants it rock solid inside you. This kind of dildo also smells strongly of plastic when they’re new. But of course, that would go as soon as you’ve used them enough.
They don’t last that long, though. Thus, they’re the perfect choice for you if you’re looking for something that won’t last forever and you want something inexpensive. They’re really just “tester” dick wands.
Soft skin
If you want to choose a realistic dildo, soft skin is the one for you. As its name suggests, this is made from remarkably realistic material and it feels frickin’ amazing. It’s got the right blend of firm and flexible similar to a real penis. So it really feels like a real dick.
Cleaning it is a different story, though. Like the jelly one, soft skin is hard to clean. It is porous, so you really need to use it with a condom. And even after you wash and dry it, it gets sticky. To deal with this, you have to store your soft skin dildo in a plastic bag or you can dust it with cornstarch.
If you opt for cornstarch, the easiest way is to put the dildo in a paper bag and put a spoonful of cornstarch then shake it up. Just be sure to wash it off before using it again. Cornstarch absorbs lubrication and it gets gritty. You don’t want that in your pussy, girl. Another word of advice: Never use talcum powder as a substitute for cornstarch. Talcum powder has been linked with ovarian cancer.
Silicone
Silicone dildos are definitely the most popular type of dick wands. They’re flexible and quickly adapt to body temperature. They also come in different shapes and textures from simple ones to curved, bumpy or vibrating.
Its popularity also comes from its easy-to-clean feature. Unlike the other dildos, silicone ones are non-porous and hypoallergenic. It is also quite durable. So even if it’s a bit pricey, it would last long if you use it and maintain it carefully enough. Make sure that the surface doesn’t get punctured. Once that happens, the rip will spread until your toy falls apart. Buh-bye thousand pesos. Make sure that you keep your toys away from sharp fingernails, edges of counters and yes, pets!
To clean your silicone dildo, soap and water will be okay. If you want to bring it up a notch, you can put it in boiling water for 3-5 minutes. You can also use 10% bleach in cleaning it for 15 minutes. Please know that no matter how easy-to-clean silicone dildos are, wiping it with alcohol or hydrogen peroxide will not disinfect it.
Glass and Acrylic
If you’re like me and you like some good hard solid dick inside your vagina, then choose a glass or acrylic dildo. It is the perfect one for you. Glass or acrylic dildos are really firm. Thus, many people prefer the slightly smaller size because the firmer it is, the bigger it feels. As much as you think you want it big, you don’t wanna wreck your vagina, amirite?
Most acrylic or glass dildo are handheld only. They don’t have a wide base, they are not mountable or you can use them with a strap-on, So if you’re feeling lazy, maybe you should try another type. If you have a partner though, then this is a great choice. They’re also very easy to clean like silicone ones. Soap and water are good enough for this kind of dildo. However, acrylic ones can’t be washed in warm or hot water ‘cause it can cause micro-crack on the surface and may cloud the toy. On the other hand, glass can take heat. This means they can be boiled or put through the dishwasher and they’re really durable and resist breakage.
3. Shape
Once you’ve figured what size and what material you want, you can decide about the shape. Do you want your dildo to hit the G-spot? Then your dildo should have a curved tip. Do you want a shape that goes larger to slimmer? Or do you want the shaft to be curved or straight? Figuring out what you want your dildo to accomplish will help you decide the kind of shape you should choose.
4. Texture
Like how you’d prefer textured condoms, the same goes for dildos. Some dildos are smooth. They’re easy to insert even without the help of lube. However, some people prefer dildos with texture. They give off a different kind of pleasure. Textures include ripples, swirls, bumps, ridges, veins, and more. If you think your experience might be improved by a bit of extra texture, then choose a dildo with ridges and nubs or other textures.
5. Base
It may not seem significant at first. But the base of a dildo can affect how you use it. If your dildo doesn’t have a flared base then you can’t use it for the anal penetration or with a strap-on. Many dildo users also swear by the good handhold provided by a flared base. A better handhold means harder thrusting capabilities. Other dildos are completely hands-free via suction cups. It would really depend on how you’re planning to use it.
Frequently Asked Questions
Now that you’ve learned about the different types of dildos, you’ve probably picked out your favorites. But if you still have questions about these frisky toys, we’ve answered some of them down below!
1. What are the best types of dildos for beginners?
There’s no particular type of dildo that is meant for beginners, but we highly suggest starting small. Start small especially if you’re not used to bigger schlongs. If you’re still a bit shy and wanted to keep it low-key, go for dildos that have discreet designs.
2. What are the best types of dildos for coupled plays?
If you’re planning to use dildos with your partner, you can opt for double-ended, double dildos, or strap-ons. Now, this depends on the type of play that you’re having so we suggest discussing it with your partner first before purchasing.
3. What are the best types of dildos for anal play?
Again, there’s no particular type of dildo for anal play. Any type of dildo can work on your butt, as long as your body is ready for the play. However, we suggest using the shorter and smaller dildos instead of the bigger ones, especially if you’re just starting out with anal play– or just get a butt plug!
4. What are the things I should consider before getting a dildo?
There are two essential things to consider when purchasing a dildo.
First, your preferences. Are you getting a dildo for masturbation or partnered sex? Do you like something realistic or have a discreet design to it? Would you like a dildo that vibrates? Those are some of the things you need to ask yourself before getting that D.
Second is the material. Dildos are for internal stimulation aka you’re inserting it in your genitals. That’s why you need to ensure that the material of the dildo is body-safe and non-porous. Examples of non-porous materials are glass, metal, and silicone. Now, if the dildo you’re planning to get has jelly plastic material on it– close that asap. It’s a porous material– meaning that bacteria can hide on the nooks and crooks of the toy.
5. What is the best way to clean a dildo?
This depends on the types of dildos that you’re using. If you’re using a dildo that isn’t vibrating, it’s most likely waterproof. And if it’s waterproof, you can wash the toy in running water and mild soap. Now, certain materials prohibit the use of mild soap so make sure to check the cleaning instructions on the packaging before cleaning it.
What have you decided?
Dildos come in every shape, size, color, material, and design both imaginable and not. So how to choose a dildo? Well, you can start by carefully considering the list of criteria we’ve mentioned! Indulge in your kinkiest fantasies with the different kinds of dildos available in the market. You can use it for solo plays or with your partner. However, regardless of how you plan on using dildos, always remember to play safe and start slow. Lube and proper cleaning and maintenance will be your greatest ally in enjoying dildos.
