There’s nothing worse than that feeling of pain and bewilderment when you realize that your boyfriend or husband doesn’t love you anymore.
At some point, his feelings changed. You wonder if you should wait for him to confess, face it, or move on with your life.
I’ve been in this situation, and the signs were there the whole time.
I just couldn’t accept them until they had inflicted so much pain and damage on me that I knew enough was enough.
I understand how difficult it can be, but I hope these 35 signs help you realize if there is any hope left or if he really doesn’t love you anymore.
It is better to grieve and restart your life than to continue in uncertainty.
Let’s go directly to them:
32 Honest Signs He No Longer Loves You
1) Avoid spending time with you
Before I looked for any opportunity to be with you but now he does everything possible to avoid you.
You might even wonder how it clocks so well, especially if you live together.
The truth is, the fact that he knows your schedule helps him.
Conveniently, he sneaks out or gets to work as soon as you walk through the front door.
He may even make plans with others when he knows you have a day off.
2) He doesn’t care about your feelings anymore
It’s hard to hurt someone when you love them.
When a man does not love you, his behavior will be consistent with this.
You are always aware of how the other feels and it causes you pain to even think about hurting him.
But when love is lost, worrying about your feelings is no longer at the top of your list.
An important sign that he no longer loves you is when he stops worrying about your feelings for him. Instead, he dismisses them and prefers to ignore you.
3) Lack of communication
A radical change and lack of communication show that your guy is putting too little effort into the relationship.
He no longer texts you to let you know what your plans are for after work, he never calls to see if you’re okay.
And it will continue to move forward:
It will begin to close, and if before they talked openly about their feelings and thoughts, now you will avoid it at all costs.
4) He doesn’t want you around his friends
At the height of their relationship, he wanted you around all the time.
Even when he dated the guys, he didn’t mind you joining because that meant he could be around you.
But, a clear sign that he no longer loves you is when all that stops.
Now, he sees hanging out with his friends as an escape from their relationship. Suddenly you are no longer invited.
And the same could apply to your family.
If he stops taking you to see his parents, it’s obvious that he’s starting to cut off that connection you have with his loved ones.
5) It’s no longer part of your life
And the same goes for you too.
Instead of sharing with you and your friends, or on double dates, now come up with any excuse to avoid it.
What’s more, he doesn’t care about any of your hobbies and no longer bothers to ask you how your day went.
If he loves you, he would have a genuine interest in what you’re doing and would want to be a part of it.
One of the most difficult moments in life is when you walk the path to the breakup, suddenly you feel that the other person no longer wants to continue. Even if they haven’t talked about it yet.
At that moment everything seems to collapse. And the more you try to fix things, the further you get away from it.
6) He looks down on you
Embarrassing yourself, belittling yourself, and making yourself feel bad about yourself can have devastating effects on your long-term self-esteem.
And it’s pretty hard not to feel affected when the person doing it is your husband or boyfriend.
In addition to being a clear sign that he no longer loves you, it shows that he does not respect you either.
If this happens regularly, you need to start thinking carefully about whether it’s worth staying in this relationship.
Simply put, no one should suffer this kind of emotional abuse, no matter how much they want to save a relationship.
7) It’s no longer honest
Another sign that he’s grown tired of you is when he stops being honest.
Even in the small things, he will make stupid excuses and won’t even bother to look embarrassed when he is discovered.
But it makes sense:
He doesn’t have the courage to be honest with you about how he feels, so why would he be sincere in these situations?
Ultimately, it’s not worth having a relationship without trust.
8) Gets angry for no reason
Often, when a man falls out of love but has not left the relationship, he will be very susceptible,
He’s frustrated because he feels trapped in this situation and doesn’t know how to tell you he doesn’t love you anymore.
But on the other hand, you may also feel some kind of guilt or sadness about the fact that you want to leave.
After all, falling out of love doesn’t make him a heartless monster, it can happen to any of us.
9) Becomes reserved
Have you caught him secretly texting late at night?
Perhaps he has started dating more, without offering any explanation as to his whereabouts.
If so, you either have something to hide or you simply no longer value the relationship.
This goes hand in hand with your dishonesty, and once this level of distrust arises in a relationship, it’s hard to bounce back from it.
10) Spend more time on your phone
Think of it this way, phone = distraction.
A distraction from having to talk to you and is a huge distraction from your feelings (or lack thereof).
And in some cases, he’s busy trying to flirt with other women.
If he is very reserved, always keeps his phone by his side and never allows you to approach him, you know something is happening there.
11) He seems bored when you talk to him
At the beginning of your relationship, I loved every word you said, even your dumbest thoughts.
But now, all that interest is gone.
You could be telling him about the best day of your life and, if he’s kind enough, he’ll pretend to nod and suppress a yawn.
If he’s not so nice, he’ll probably ignore you until you get the message.
12) Sends confusing signals
The sad truth is that:
Even though he has stopped loving you, he may still care about you and be afraid of hurting you by being honest about his feelings.
When this happens, it will naturally send a lot of mixed signals.
Some days he will be kind to you, even affectionate, and other days he will act reserved and quiet.
He is fighting an internal battle, and his fear of being honest adds to it.
This can be confusing for you because it gives you a little hope before brutally pushing her away again.
13) Stop saying he loves you
This is an obvious sign, but one that you may have overlooked during all the other things that happen in the relationship.
Think about it, when was the last time he told you he loved you?
And if it was fairly recent, did he say it like a robot following a script or was it really felt?
If he no longer loves you, he will avoid saying it as much as possible.
He probably only says it to answer when you say it first.
14) Never apologizes
Stopping apologizing means you’ve stopped taking responsibility for your actions.
And that’s because he doesn’t care about the relationship anymore. It’s an important sign that he doesn’t love you anymore.
When someone loves you, invest in making the relationship work. Part of that means taking responsibility for our actions.
And that includes saying “I’m sorry” when you’re wrong.
But the fact that he has stopped completely shows that he has really given up.
15) Start comparing yourself to other people
Comparing yourself to other women can be cruel and certainly out of place.
A loving partner will never want to make you feel bad or jealous, so if they do, they are very likely to be frustrated with the whole situation.
And on top of that, he’s taking it out on you.
16) Future? What a future
No matter where you are in your relationship, conversations about the future inevitably arise.
Whether it’s planned for the next weekend or a vacation next year.
That shows that they see themselves together in the near future.
But once love is lost, you will stop imagining yourself being close in the long term and that is why you will stop mentioning the future altogether.
17) Start talking more about “me” than “us”
When he no longer says “we,” it becomes clear that he has changed his perspective: he is beginning to see himself as separate from the relationship.
This doesn’t usually happen unless you’re emotionally hurt or want to leave the relationship.
18) You are their second choice
It sounds like a cheesy cliché, but you should be with someone who always has you as a priority.
You are still putting everything into this relationship in the hope that he will love you again, while he is busy imagining his escape and hurting you in the process.
19) It makes you feel like a burden
Have you ever had that feeling that he feels like you’re holding him back?
Maybe he wants to do something, but you have to work and suddenly he gets angry because he can’t go.
It will make you feel like you are a weight on his shoulders and that you are too dependent on him.
But it all points to the fact that he doesn’t love you, and it’s this guilt that weighs him down, not you.
20) No longer strives
You’ll know he doesn’t love you any more if he stops trying.
Anniversaries, birthdays, whatever the occasion, will minimize everything.
The days of romantic surprises are long gone.
You may also notice that it no longer makes any effort with its appearance and makes sense.
What need is there to impress you, if it has no feelings left?
Most women let their emotions get the better of them when they “try to fix things” with their partner and make irremediable mistakes.
21) Doesn’t pay attention to you
Paying attention involves many things.
Notice how you look, listen to what you say and pay attention to yourself with affection and compliments.
If all this doesn’t exist anymore, it’s not a good sign.
It shows that you are moving away and the feelings you once had have begun to disappear.
22) Your sex life has decreased
And ultimately, this lack of attention towards you, combined with the lack of love, will have bad consequences for your sex life.
The truth is, guys (and girls) can have sex without being in love.
It happens long before people enter into a relationship and feelings arise.
But it’s harder to have sex with someone you loved, but you don’t feel the same way anymore.
Therefore, you may find that he almost never looks for you. Or that he rejects sex, no matter how hard you try to seduce him.
23) Stop making plans with you
Where before they did things together, like going for a walk on a Sunday or Friday night, now he wants to go out alone.
You assume he’s meeting up with his friends, but in some cases, he might not even bother to tell you where he’s going.
Essentially, if he doesn’t love you anymore, he won’t want to spend time with you, and going out alone is an escape from his problems.
24) Avoid talking about emotions
Does your man always find an excuse not to have a conversation about feelings?
Whether you want to talk about a recent discussion or just know how it feels.
He just doesn’t want to listen.
You might be afraid to reveal your feelings if you don’t feel ready, or you’re really no longer interested in what you think or feel.
Either way, if they can’t talk about how they’re feeling, it’s not a healthy relationship to stay in.
25) He doesn’t get jealous anymore
Jealousy in small amounts lets our partners know that we love them.
They say we don’t want to see them with anyone but us.
When they started, he was sure to have ever shown jealousy. Now as his feelings have changed, you’ll notice that he doesn’t care anymore.
26) He criticizes you… A lot
From your clothes to your weight, criticism of any kind can be extremely painful to hear, especially from someone you love.
But sadly, as their love for you wanes, criticism will increase.
This boils down to him feeling unhappy in the relationship, and he’s essentially taking it out on you.
There’s also a chance he’s waiting for you to get tired first and finish things so he doesn’t have to.
27) Distances itself from you in public
If your partner no longer loves you, you may notice that they stop holding your hand or putting their arm around you when they go out.
Now, it feels like you’re shopping or eating at a restaurant with a friend rather than a longtime partner.
Any attempt to be affectionate on your part is met coldly.
28) No more love
And it doesn’t end there…
Lack of affection on the outside can also reflect how he treats you in intimacy.
You’ll know he doesn’t love you anymore when he stops those cute morning kisses or stops snuggling with you on the couch.
As his feelings change, you’ll find that he stops wanting to be around you and even avoids touching you if he can.
29) Becomes personal in discussions
An argument about what to have for dinner can end up accusing you of being an indecisiveness in your entire life.
You might feel confused and wonder why it makes everything so personal and cruel.
If he doesn’t love you anymore, chances are he’s in a miserable place, as he can’t be honest about it.
He simply dumps his misery on you, discussions are the perfect tool.
30) The relationship is no longer fun
The sparks are gone.
He never flirts with you.
Fun date nights are a thing of the past.
If this sounds familiar, it is very likely that he no longer loves you and this is demonstrated by his lack of enthusiasm towards you.
31) It no longer tries to make you happy
You know someone loves you when all they want is to see you happy.
But once that love is gone, so will their commitment to always make you smile and do things that make you feel good.
Instead, his focus will be more on himself and what he needs to be happy.
It’s important to remember at times like this that you have to trust yourself when it comes to happiness.
Your partner is proof that you can’t depend on others to find her.
32) Makes you feel unwanted
And finally, if he no longer loves you, you will feel it.
He will stop coming to you for advice, he will never want to hear your opinion or feelings on an issue.
He will begin to act as if he no longer needs you or wants you around.
This is a heartbreaking truth to face, but the sooner you accept your partner’s cues, the faster you can start moving on with your life.
What can you do about it?
Unfortunately, if your husband or boyfriend has fallen out of love, there’s not much you can do to make him change his mind.
Now, I could tell you that by doing XYZ you will get their love back, but it’s never that simple.
First of all, there’s a reason he fell out of love with you.
Either due to a lack of compatibility, or that you have distanced yourself in your relationship.
You might even have met someone else, in general, it is very unlikely to recover that love.
And at some point, you need to start thinking about yourself.
Loving someone who doesn’t love you is not an easy experience to live, and there is no doubt that you feel miserable about their behavior.
And who could blame you?
But sinking into despair won’t get your life back on track.
It’s a good idea to confront your partner and have an honest conversation about their feelings and the future of the relationship.
Only then can you move on with your life and find happiness and love within you.
I assure you that one day a better partner will arrive in which to invest your love and your emotions. It’s nobody’s fault, it’s just life.