Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus, right? The classic saying hints at strife between the sexes. Astrology, however, brings more nuance to that age-old dilemma. There’s not just one type of man or woman.
If you are a Taurus woman considering a Virgo man (or the other way round), you may have heard that Taurus and Virgo are both earth signs. This gives you some common ground. The Zodiac signs of Taurus and Virgo, however, are ruled by different planets. This brings some challenges to the Virgo man Taurus woman couple. The woman is from Venus, but this man is from Mercury.
The hard part about the emotional connection in a Taurus woman Virgo man couple is figuring out who will make the first move. Both of these earth signs are grounded in the physical world. What Taurus and Virgo have in common is that their first impulse is to solve problems practically rather than explore their emotional issues.
With guidance from a water sign partner like Cancer or Pisces, Taurus can grow comfortable with opening up over time. Taurus woman, ruled by Venus, has a capacity for warmth. She may express it in attending to her partner’s physical comfort more than in having a big heart-to-heart conversation, though.
A Virgo who has been through some trauma can come out the other end of it more articulate about emotions than the average man. A great example of this is the memoir Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Virgo writer Cheryl Strayed. It details her journey after her mother’s untimely death.
However, without that type of extreme motivation, the Virgo man, like anybody else, sticks with what is most comfortable for him. Therefore, he tends to get trapped in a loop of relationship anxiety instead of articulating the more significant issues.
Taurus and Virgo share a common tendency toward inertia. If one of them can break through that to make the first move or circumstances make a move for them, they can open up.
In the meantime, the emotional connection between two earth sign people may not always look the way it would for more emotional fire or water sign people. They may be okay with a quieter understanding.
Communication and intellect
The Virgo man Taurus woman are more compatible as friends or co-workers than as romantic partners. Without the pressures of having to run a household together, they could actually enjoy each other’s company.
Taurus and Virgo have similar senses of humor. Both are more subtle than a wild Gemini or Leo having to be on the stage of entertainers. Instead, Taurus and Virgo see the funny side of daily life. However, Virgo man may veer further into toilet humor than Taurus woman does.
The Virgo male can be indirect in his communication, while the Taurus female is more likely to come out and say what is on her mind. Taurus, as a fixed sign, gets caught being stubborn. Virgo, though, can be just as stubborn, and she is slippery enough to get away with it.
Each Zodiac sign is ruled by at least one of the planets. This can make a difference for Virgo and Taurus as communicators. Virgo is ruled by Mercury, which is the planet of communication. Mercury is also involved in the little to-dos of daily life, so Virgo is notorious for chattering at length about really petty stuff.
Meanwhile, Taurus is ruled by Venus, which makes her relax. The Taurus woman may enjoy peace and quiet and may not know how to calm the Virgo man down when he worries out loud. Taurus can be a good listener while Virgo goes on and on. Her presence will eventually calm him down.
Trust between a Virgo man and a Taurus woman depends on a particular area. They generally trust each other not to have an affair. They both like security too much to go that route. They also both have enough earthy physicality to keep each other entertained.
The bigger issue between these two is money. The more separate their checking accounts can be, the better. The Virgo man will never trust the Taurus woman — or, for that matter, anyone else on this Earth — to be as careful with money as he thinks is warranted. He wants to nickel and dime every little thing. However, he does not look too closely into how much money he spent on gas driving across town to get a slightly better deal at a different store.
Taurus woman will generally buy everything on her shopping list at the store where she already is at. She does not feel bad about impulse-buying some candy on her way out, as she thinks we are here on this Earth to have fun once in a while. Then she brings the goods home to her Virgo man, and the fun ends.
The Taurus woman will be able to tell that the Virgo man doesn’t trust her with money. No one feels good in that kind of atmosphere of suspicion. A typical result is for the person who is continually accused of whatever crime, whether they did it, to finally go and commit the crime. The thought process, consciously or not, runs, “If I’m going to be treated like a criminal no matter what I do, I might as well have the fun of being one.” She, therefore, spends more, and he, thus, gets more upset.
Taurus and Virgo are both earth signs, so they both value material things. They are not likely to have a situation where one of the two quits a stable job to become a rock star, and the other has to deal with it. Both of them agree that it would be a bad idea.
Both of them are willing to work hard. Virgo and Taurus compatibility, however, diverges from there. Taurus woman works to live, while Virgo man lives to work. Taurus is a “Work hard, play hard” type, while Virgo has trouble relaxing enough to play.
The Taurus woman will work as hard as she needs to afford the fun and luxuries she wants to have. She may have to work hard for that, as she may have a bigger appetite for fun and luxuries than some of the other signs. When she has enough to feel comfortable, though, she actually stops working and enjoys the fun and luxuries.
The sign of Taurus is ruled by Venus, which enjoys pleasure for its own sake. In an astrological chart, Venus represents money and love and, more broadly, what a person values. In a sign ruled by Venus, values tend to be balanced: yes, work is important, but having a life is important too.
For Virgo, however, no one could ever work hard enough to have earned the fun and luxuries that the Taurus woman feels she deserves. The Virgo man continually has to be justifying his existence with work, even if they are just tasks around the house.
The sign of Virgo is ruled by Mercury, which can result in an exhausting flurry of activity. You might wish he had a hobby that could serve as an outlet for some of this excess energy, but of course, he will say that joining the model train club is too expensive.
What isn’t too expensive, in the Virgo man’s estimation? The Taurus woman just wants a nice dinner out sometimes, but of course, the Virgo man thinks that’s too expensive. Virgos also tend toward obsession with health issues, especially the idea that there is a dietary cure for everything. Whatever restaurant he thinks is affordable then also has to go through the filter of whether he thinks their food is healthy enough. Clearly, not many places will pass his tests, so they wind up staying home and cooking. The Virgo man then breathes down the Taurus woman’s neck because he thinks she put too much sugar in whatever she was cooking. This is the Taurus woman’s definition of hell.
Love compatibility between Taurus and Virgo can be improved. A Virgo man with Venus in Libra might not be as stingy as the general Virgo stereotype. A Taurus woman might be idealistic enough to overlook some of a Virgo partner’s more challenging qualities, and that might even help him get some perspective after a while.
Sex and intimacy
Taurus and Virgo are both physical earth signs. The Taurus woman with Virgo man might be able to use sexual intimacy to compensate for the other areas of their relationship that do not run smoothly.
Taurus is ruled by Venus, and the Taurus woman secretly regards herself on some level as a goddess of Aphrodite’s stature. Her sexuality is strongly associated with her view of herself as a woman. Even if she has or wants to have children, her female power is not as maternal as it is sexual. What does a Virgo man like in a Taurus woman? Well, who doesn’t fancy a woman with a high sex drive?
Virgo is ruled by Mercury, and Mercury can be a little androgynous, combining masculine and feminine characteristics. In the context of a heterosexual man, it’s more about being secure enough in his masculinity to branch out beyond the tough guy mold.
A Virgo man embracing his androgynous side seems young for his age. The Taurus woman and Virgo man might be close in age according to their birth certificates. Still, Virgo could look and act young enough for her to feel like a cougar preying on him. This might be something unique that a Taurus woman likes about a Virgo man.
This dynamic is less pronounced when both partners are under thirty when they are relatively young to be recognized as such. When the Taurus woman gets older, though, looking like a cougar might get her some social status, which she would enjoy. This type of role-playing might also bring out a more fun side of the Virgo man, which would help him lighten up and be less controlling.
The fundamental dilemma of Virgo man Taurus woman compatibility is one of the priorities around money, and this runs deep. Even if the Virgo man agrees to submit to the Taurus woman in their relationship, he will have a hard time letting her take over the finances and be his sugar mama. He feels the need to continually prove himself financially — even past the point that the security-oriented Taurus woman is interested, which is an achievement.
At worst, the Taurus woman can be shallow, concerned with her comfort in the present moment over the bigger picture. The Virgo man can’t see the bigger picture, either. Do you know the saying that someone can’t see the forest for the trees? Virgo can’t see the trees for the lichens, having lost any concept of the forest long ago. These two can therefore fight over some really petty stuff and totally lose perspective on it.
Epic fight potential in daily life could be when Taurus wants the house warmer for her comfort, but Virgo likes to keep it cold to save on the electric bill, and he thinks she should just put on a sweater.
If Taurus and Virgo were not sharing an electric bill, they might actually be good friends. If their views allow a friends with benefits situation, that could work. They can function relatively harmoniously as co-workers too.
It’s just that romantic relationship commonly tends to escalate to living together. Taurus and Virgo have strong opinions about running a home and paying for the associated costs, and their visions clash. Neither is terribly interested in compromise, either.
Are Virgo and Taurus a good match?
Virgo man Taurus woman compatibility is lower than one would expect for two Sun signs of the same element. It is due to the difference in priorities brought about by the different planets ruling the signs. Taurus’s Venus values comfort, while Virgo’s Mercury is always running around worried about something.
Thinking about which Northern Hemisphere seasons are represented by Taurus and Virgo also gives some perspective. Taurus falls in the middle of the spring when the growing season is still full of potential. Yes, work is important, but it’s okay to just enjoy the warming weather and smell the flowers sometimes.
Meanwhile, Virgo falls at the end of the summer, when the growing season is on its way out. Virgo is therefore associated with the harvest when you are called to account for whether you worked hard or slacked off throughout the growing season. The hope is that you have amassed enough produce to last you through the winter. This may be where Virgo’s mentality of scarcity and a sense of never having enough comes from.
Yes, both Taurus and Virgo are dealing with the Earth, but they have totally different experiences with it and diverse approaches to it. A hard thing about Virgo’s approach, founded in the old days of your harvest reflecting on you, is that he tends to believe whatever happens is under his personal control. For instance, if he has a medical issue, he agonizes over what flaw in his diet caused it, though more likely, there was nothing he could have done. It’s his out-of-control anxiety escalating to the point it has effects on his body. Getting Virgo to admit to being anxious can be tough, though.
Taurus, coming from a more abundant time of year, has a sunnier mindset. The downside of this is that Taurus can become complacent and can even cross the line into being boring. Perhaps this gives a clue to something that Taurus oddly finds attractive in Virgo. If you’re bored, he can make mountains out of the molehills of daily life more dramatically than even a Leo can. With shows like that, the Taurus woman might not even mind that her Virgo man told her they couldn’t afford Netflix, even though the math looks different to her.
If you are really determined to make this relationship work, the best bet would be to look at other factors in both astrological charts to find common ground.
Whether or not Taurus woman Virgo man couple has other planets in the air signs of Gemini and Libra to defuse the tension, getting out of the earth element, in general, can bring a fresh perspective. If one or both of you have the Moon in a fire or water sign, that can unlock the door to more emotional expression.
Even if your astrological charts don’t feature the other elements prominently, you can still make an intentional effort to break out of your comfort zones. Both people in the relationship have to want this and work toward it together, though.