In case you don’t know, aside from vaginal play, you can also use dildos for anal play. It’s the same way as with actual penises. You can use them in any hole possible. Dildos are not only made for vaginas, but you can also have a bit of outdoor fun with them.
What makes a dildo a dildo is not necessarily that it’s shaped like a penis. If you browse our shop, you’ll see that there’s a variety of shapes and sizes of dildos. There are stainless steel dildos and dildos made from medical silicone. There are realistic and fantastical dildos. You’re free to choose, and whichever you choose, you’re assured that they’re suitable for both vaginal and anal play.
How to Use a Dildo for Anal Play:
1. Choose the Right Dildo
Please don’t choose the nine-inch dildo for anal play. As much as I believe in free choice, have pity on your innocent butt. When choosing a dildo for backdoor action, just ensure that it is smooth and firm. Also, use a dildo with a flared base. This will make it easier for retrieval and penetration. Plus, a soft floppy dildo is unlikely to hold its own during anal play. As much as possible, have a separate dildo for your butt. Don’t interchange using it on your vagina and anus. That’s just disturbing. Observing proper hygiene is a must no matter how “dirty” you wanna get. If you can’t do that because of a tight budget, then always use condoms to avoid infections.
2. Lube Lube Lube
Your vagina can get wet on its own. Your anus can’t. For this reason, using dildos for anal play requires a little more caution than vaginal penetration. Your rectum is a hotspot of a lot of nerves, which makes anal sex enjoyable, but at the same time, the lining here is much thinner compared to the vagina. As such, the rectum is more prone to damage. If you aren’t well-lubricated, you will definitely cause some damage there and hurt yourself. So as with vaginal use, make sure you use lots of lube and make sure that it is compatible with the material of your dildo. We suggest using water-based lubes because it works well with most toys.
3. Be slow and gentle.
You don’t have to get hasty with anal play. If you want to use dildos for anal play, anal penetration requires a slow but firm pressure to overcome the muscular walls. The flared base of most dildos will help you achieve this. It allows you to grasp your dildo firmly and securely. As such, you can use it to ease the dildo in and out of your ass. Then you can enjoy it!
4. Find your rhythm
Anal penetration isn’t comfortable at first. It’s normal to experience mild discomfort. Give it 30 seconds to a minute to subside. If you still find the penetration uncomfortable or painful, stop before you damage yourself. Reevaluate the situation. Maybe you need more lube or a smaller dildo. Or maybe you’re too focused on it that you forgot to relax. Give it a try another time.
5. Partnered Anal Play
If you have a boyfriend, you might want to introduce the wonders of anal penetration to him, as this can be particularly pleasurable for him. Most men like to have their prostate stimulated via the rectum. Some guys can be too shy to try it or weirded out by the idea of it. But maybe your boyfriend will be open to it, and this can be part of an explosive sex routine. Just remember to use a condom if you’re planning on sharing the dildo. This is not only for hygiene but to reduce the risk of sexually-transmitted diseases.
Before you Begin
You can’t just dive “head” in first when it comes to some backdoor fun (did you see what I did there?) You have to do some necessary preparations before you deal with dildos on your anal play.
1. Make sure the mood is right.
Whether you’re using dildos alone or with a partner, make sure that the right mood is on. Light some scented candles. Get on the bed or tub with rose petals. The perfect ambiance can intensify your arousal. Dim the lights and put on some sexy music. Lock the door, so you don’t have to worry about someone interrupting your session.
2. Foreplay is a must.
When the mood has already been dealt with, now it’s time to ease you up. Before you use your dildo for some anal play, warm yourself up first. If you’re doing solo play, finger yourself. Since the rectum doesn’t produce natural lubrication, grab some sweet-smelling lube, and finger yourself.
In case you haven’t heard, fingers aren’t only for vaginas and clits. Anal fingering is one of the best foreplay for any anal play. This technique is meant to help you loosen up and be more ready for the backdoor action that’s about to go down. To start, just lay down and have your partner lube up one or two fingers. Slowly insert the finger, let it stay there, and then slowly withdraw the finger. Repeat the process. You can combine this with some handjob to double the pleasure. Reapply the lube as needed and keep communications open. Talk about what feels good and what doesn’t.
3. Stay safe
When you use a dildo for anal play, you are essentially introducing a foreign object in your butt. The lining of the anus is fragile, so it’s sensitive to damage. You need to be careful. Anal tearing should be your largest safety concern. Anything near or in the anus should be smooth or free of jagged edges. So make sure to cut your fingernails short and use the appropriate dildo. Preferably a dildo with a flared base for easy retrieval. Otherwise, things might get out of hand (literally), and you’ll end up having a trip to the emergency room to retrieve a “lost” dildo in your ass.
Lube is important when using dildos for anal play. There’s no such thing as “too much lube.” As we all know, the anus doesn’t lubricate itself, unlike the vagina, so making sure that you have enough lube before slipping in your dildo is for your own safety. Other reported benefits of using lube include increasing arousal and sexual desire. It makes sex more fun and more comfortable.Be wary of infections, so don’t forget to use condoms. This is important most especially if you plan on sharing your dildo with your partner or if you want to use your dildo on your vagina too.
Using Dildos for Solo Anal Play
You may be single, or you may be in a long-distance relationship. No matter what situation you’re in, a dildo is a trusty friend who will never leave you alone. You can use it for fun solo anal plays.
1. Classic Anal Play
Lie in your bed, and after making sure you are aroused and lubricated enough, thrust the dildo inside of your ass. Start slowly and carefully. Twist the dildo inside. You can also try lying on your side when you’re inserting it. It feels great and gives you a “fullness” sensation.
2. Fourplay
Use a dildo with a suction cup for this one. Secure the dildo on your headboard and back up towards it. It’s easy to give yourself a doggy in this position. You can also do this for practice so that you know what you like and how you like it when you use it with a partner. When you use a suction cup dildo for anal play, you’re also getting a tutor on what you like and how you like it best.
3. Sitting
You can use your dildo for anal play while sitting. Sit on a sofa or the edge of your bed or anywhere comfortable. Spread your legs and rest your calves in the “arms of the chair” and then insert the dildo in your ass. It’s easy to reach your G-spot in this position. It’s also a perfect position if you’re going to let your partner watch you please yourself.
4. Dildos with suction cups
Dildos with suction cups are best for anal play. It allows you to experience so many more positions and gives you more freedom to explore. It makes things more comfortable and more fun. Just make sure that wherever you use your suction cup dildo, you have your prepared towel to make cleaning easier. Here are just a few of the places and positions you can experiment with:
- Stand up doggy style – use the suction cup dildo on a wall and fuck yourself standing up
- On your shower wall – bring the backdoor fun to your bath time. Place the dildo on the toilet bowl or tiles and ease your way to it.
- Riding it on the floor- place the dildo on the floor and get down on it
Using Dildos for Partnered Anal Play:
To help you out on this journey, we’re gonna help you figure out some pleasurable techniques and sex positions for you to enjoy using dildos for anal play:
1. Rim job
Use your tongue on your ass. This is another common technique to increase the heat on your anal play. Obviously, you’ll need a clean ass before you do this. You can use some anal douche to ensure that all’s good in that area. Once that’s taken care of, your partner can go to town on his lips and tongue. You can combine this with a handjob or a sex position called “rusty trombone.”
2. Rusty Trombone
This position is like a classic 69, except that it’s all about your ass. There are so many ways to do this. To do the standard rusty trombone, let your partner stand with his legs slightly spread. Then, kneel behind him. Position yourself between his ass and give him some slow exploratory kisses and licks. Circle your tongue around his butthole or press your tongue over his perineum (the area between balls and anus. As you’re doing this incorporate a handjob. To make sure you’re not feeling alone, you can use a vibrating dildo on your ass for anal play. That way, you can also have the same fun.
If you wanna do another version of it, try the “rusty trumpet.” This time, you’re the one who’s getting your tongue action from behind. Let your partner lie down. Then, sit on his face facing his knees. Make sure that you create a space for him to breathe, so hold yourself up a little. While he’s going to town on your bum, let him caress your vagina and finger you with his free hands. Then, he can be the one wearing a vibrating butt plug so that he can also get some good vibrations.
3. Awesome threesome
You can use a dildo for some hot steamy “threesome” session. Let the dildo be the third wheel on your anal play. The double stimulation is a great way to play around with your dildo. You can use a vibrating dildo or butt plug on your ass as your partner penetrates you on the vagina. Stimulate your ass with the dildo, and enjoy some deep thrusting inside your vagina. It will give you a “fulfilling” experience and a mindblowing orgasm.
4. The Shoulder Holder
This position will allow for deep penetration of your g-spot. To do this, lie on your back. Your partner will kneel between your legs and raise them. He will put your legs on his shoulders then penetrate you. Start slowly as this can cause discomfort if you do this rough on the first try. To intensify sensations, both of you can use a dildo or butt plug for your anal play.
Conclusion
It can be hard trying out dildos for anal play most especially if it’s your first time. You might get all sorts of weird sensations, and that might discourage you. But I’m here to tell you now that those are okay. They’re normal. Once you get past them and you use your dildo correctly and safely for anal play, you might just be hooked! You’ll probably understand why people are so into anal sex all the time. Then you’ll wonder why you didn’t try it out before!
