Who has not ever wondered if he would return to his ex? You will be surprised to know that almost half of all couples who break up give themselves another chance.
Perhaps you find yourself deliberating in your head, whether you should return to your former partner or not. Actually, the sensible thing to do is to stay away from that old love, after you’re done. But maybe you have some valid arguments for getting back together.
Below you can read the 10 most important reasons why a person returns to their ex. Perhaps this can help you clear your mind and make a decision.
1) To have sex
The main reason is to be able to be intimate. When a guy doesn’t get his dose, he starts to be sexually frustrated.
He knows that he met that need without a problem with you, and now he wants to come back for it.
But you should be careful to assume that he came back because he’s not having sex with another girl.
There is a chance that your new relationship will not be so good. Maybe he doesn’t know what he likes best, like you.
Generally, most guys can’t end a relationship for good.
They have become too accustomed to being with someone, especially if they have spent a lot of time together.
Now going in search of a relationship and being able to reconnect with someone, it is very complicated.
Because of this, it is very likely that he has not succeeded. That’s why it has come back to you.
2) Because he really misses you
The truth is the vast majority of men who are single secretly wish they were in a relationship.
In turn, a number of other men who are in a relationship would like to be single again.
As soon as the relationship ends, your ex will be sad, but then he will realize that he is single again.
Consequently, he will go out freely with his friends, flirt with other women and party, not feeling guilty about being a boyfriend.
But then, everything will go into decline. He will begin to miss the small details of being in a relationship.
This will certainly happen, unless his ex-girlfriend was a complete witch. So, chances are you’ll still party with your friends.
Additionally, due to the fact that you have not been single for a long time, it may be much more difficult than you had imagined, at first.
The last time he was single, he was probably younger and in the full experience of conquest.
Now singleness may be totally different from what he remembered.
As soon as he gets frustrated and bored with the single life, he will run back to you.
3) Out of jealousy
When guys see an ex-girlfriend with another man, their blood really boils. You may not show it at first glance, but internally you would like to punch that new man in your life in the face.
What annoys men the most is that you directly show them the reality that they are no longer together.
So, he will make sure you’re not happy with this new guy or he’ll insist on getting you back.
4) It’s really changed
Men can become transformed if they really want to.
Keep in mind that you as a woman will not be able to change a guy. But you can open his eyes to a certain reality, which he may not like, like living without you.
If he really wants to be with you again, he will reveal to you that he has modified certain habits, which he knows you don’t like.
He will want to show you those changes not only out of pride, but also because he wants the opportunity to be “your man” again.
When he makes any positive modifications, no matter how small, he will immediately want to show it to you.
Men can sometimes be like boys.
5) Regrets that they are finished
On certain occasions, when a boy leaves a girl, he regrets his decision as time goes on.
What happens is that he has begun to look back and has realized that he only focused on the things he didn’t like about you, rather than all the things he did.
As soon as he notices all the qualities you possess, he will begin to bang against the wall.
This can happen, especially, if he has met girls, who are as good to us for him, as you are.
Then, he will want to contact you again as soon as possible, hoping that you will apologize.
If you think it’s worth it, just give it another chance.
It’s common for kids to forget how much they should appreciate you.
Usually, a man gets irritated fairly quickly and begins to take everything for granted.
As time goes on, they realize that the unique strengths and qualities that attracted them to you in the first place cannot be replicated so easily.
6) For convenience
Stepping out of your comfort zone can be hard at times.
Some people may think it’s easier to stay with someone you already know.
“Better known bad, than good to know” goes the saying.
It may be common to fall into a previous relationship because it is more comfortable.
Many times it may seem difficult to rebuild trust with another partner.
It takes time and work and you can think “Do I have to start over again and put all this effort in? Will I succeed? Is it worth trying again?
And this makes you consider returning to what you had with your previous partner.
Going through the whole stage of meeting another woman again can be a hassle.
At first, it may be a lot of fun for your ex, but after a while, it can become an “I’m past this” situation.
Men are inclined to return to their comfort zone with their ex-partners, before starting all over again. Since starting over can have its risks.
7) I wanted to check if you really cared about him
What I mean here, is that he wanted to see if you miss him, as much as he misses you.
Then, after separating for a short time, he will send you a message like, “Hi, how are you?” as if they were just getting to know each other.
He wants to see if your feelings are still intact.
After checking this, he will want to return it immediately to you.
Otherwise, he will go crazy, if he feels for a moment that you are no longer interested.
Despite what he says or how he acts, the reality is that this kind of ex possesses a big ego, which constantly needs to be fed. Keep this in mind, if you want to go back to him.
8) Out of nostalgia
People have the ability to remember more the good things that happened to us, than the bad. We even forget the latter completely.
I mean, when we remember the past, we tend to idealize it.
Men constantly remember the good times. This causes me to want to have more of those memories with you.
Your ex-partner will return with the goal of creating new happy memories with you, rather than the bad ones, for which they were estranged.
This is how social networks will become your allies. Many men won’t admit it, but the reality is that every time they see a picture of you, they go crazy.
Boys are “visual creatures.” As soon as he sees an image of you, flashes begin to appear in his mind, of the best moments they spent together in the past.
The photos, mainly, will make him sad and make him start to miss you.
Then, everything that happens to him will bring back memories of you. These will constantly assault him and he will want to start over with you.
9) One of his parents convinced him
Sometimes, your father or mother keeps it by reminding you of your ex. One of the ways this can happen is by telling her she’s an idiot for letting her go.
In general, any guy who has had a serious connection with a woman also has some kind of committed relationship with his parents.
A mother knows when her child is not at his best and understands the cause of it. Then, your ex-boyfriend will start listening to his mother, when she constantly tells him how well he was, when they went out together.
The chances that his parents or even a good friend will try to make him come to his senses are really high.
He will begin to listen to what the people who love him tell him, and the influence of them and his family will cause him to change his mind.
10) Realize what you lost
When the relationship is severed, a standard is set in a man’s imagination to find another partner. That is, now your ex-boyfriend knows what he likes and what he doesn’t.
At the same time that he is dating a new girl, he will begin to compare her to you.
Because of the standards that were built with your previous relationship, you will perhaps start to get irritated with the girl who is dating now.
Soon her cute exterior will “fade” and she will realize that she is unable to meet her needs.
If he thinks these standards are not being met, he will come back to you, feeling that you are the only woman who can meet his needs.
There are many different aspects to consider, when it comes to the intimacy of a relationship. The odds that a new girl will not meet all the standards he owns are really high. These possibilities are in your favor.
11) Because you can’t be alone
How hurts to think about being alone, right?
Many people can’t stand the thought of loneliness, and they need to stay with someone in their life, even if they don’t want to.
Even, you may not even do well in that relationship. But you don’t want to separate, just because you don’t feel that loneliness.
12) For the security you feel, when you are in a relationship
This security can be of the sentimental, economic or corporeal class.
If their relationship was very deep and lasts for a long time, this factor is getting stronger and stronger.
That is, we joined one person in many ways because he gave us confidence and security.
Losing all this can be very difficult. Also, we are afraid that we will not be able to find someone like it.
Time and love happen and, sometimes, it is proven that life is circular and that love can arise again.
How many times have we heard that a couple was back together?
It could even have been years, and by chance, they met. This was enough for their love to be reborn.
That’s why, if you’re wanting to get back with your ex, you have a 50% chance of this happening.
Or, perhaps, they have already returned and you want to know if what is happening to them is real.
Well, if you wish, coming back is a good start. Then, time will tell, if they will stay together.
The reality is that many couples can return several times until they completely realize that they must separate.
Others come back once and what they needed was to take the next step, like getting married, or just mature to share a lifetime together.
In conclusion, if you really think it’s worth trying again, do it!
Otherwise, you will be left with doubt forever and that may bother you or leave you with the worry about what would have happened, for the rest of your life.
Perhaps, he is really the one to share your path and, if not, at least they will have tried.