Dating someone can be easy. If you do it right it can even be fun. You sometimes get the feeling that you are made for each other. Read here how you can make him so in love that he wants nothing more than to be with you.
But is that really so? Many women have a lot of trouble assessing whether a man really likes them. You simply cannot read a mind. And men also tell you very little on their own. Sometimes it almost seems impossible to understand what goes on in men. That is why in this blog post I will give you signals and characteristics to recognize a man in love.
The subtle signs of decoding his behavior and know for sure
When two people first fall in love and experience the high of infatuation, all either of you would want to do is please the other person or shower each other with little acts of love and romance.
But as the infatuation starts to fade and real love starts to set in, the same romantic gestures you use to decode love *infatuation* can’t be used anymore, not when love takes a truer and deeper form.
Your guy may buy you gifts or indulge in romantic gestures to please you and woo you, and they definitely work!
But to truly understand whether your man loves you, you need to keep an eye on the signs he gives away when he doesn’t realize it himself. How does your man behave when he isn’t trying to woo you, or trying to prove he loves you?
Why do men say I love you even when they don’t mean it
Most guys do this! But it’s not his fault or yours really. It’s just that as the talking stage progresses to dating, and then to something more, he just assumes he has to say “I love you” because it’s what a guy is supposed to do. He may not even mean it, especially if he’s not sure you’re the one. Or if he believes you’re not yet invested in him.
By saying “I love you” to you, he assumes it’s the easiest way to keep you happy in the relationship. Or worse, he may do it because he thinks that’s what YOU want to hear!
But, of course, there are always ways to know if he really does love you. Take a look at the signs below, and without any doubt, you’ll have the answer to that question, does he love me, in no time at all!
The signs of a man in love
Some men have no qualms about expressing their feelings to the person they are in love with.
But most men find it difficult to express their feelings in a romantic way.
They are a hero in saying “I love you”.
But regardless of this, they are very bad at showing that they REALLY love you.
How much easier would it be for women…
… if you could take a test to find out if a guy has a crush on you?
And I have it here for you.
If you’re dating or in a relationship right now, keep reading.
If you want to know if the guy your date loves you or “just” likes you, below are 23 signs and characteristics to tell if he’s in love with you.
1. Eye Contact
Eye contact is very important for women. As a woman, you can immediately see what you got from a man.
He can be tough, but his eyes give away who he really is.
When a man has nothing to hide and likes nothing more than to give himself up, he makes strong eye contact.
It’s his way of saying
“I like you, I have nothing to hide and I want you to see who I really am”
If you have a man who meets these signs, then you know that you are on the right track.
Men who are not in love with a woman avoid eye contact as much as possible. It’s too confrontational.
They know that they only date that woman for her looks.
When a man can maintain eye contact for a long time, he feels comfortable with you.
No man can be in love with a woman with whom he is uncomfortable.
So the more eye contact he makes and keeps, the more in love he is.
2. He Shows More Interest In Your Personality
Appearance brings you together. Inwardly holds you together.
When a man digs deep into your past, present, and future, you know he is very interested in you.
Most men often settle for a few facts about you. But when he’s really trying to get to know you inside, he’ll sometimes ask you questions you weren’t expecting.
It may even be the first time that you have been asked such a question.
Don’t be alarmed, but be happy:
Your Husband Is Now More Interested In Your Inner Self Than Your Outer
What kind of questions are these? They are often questions about:
- Your secrets
- To dream
- Your motivation in life
Do you get to hear these kinds of questions on a regular basis? Then it is a good signal that a man is in love with you.
It may sound strange, but we men also love to cuddle.
When people hug, substance Oxytocin is released. It is released not only when we hug each other, but also when touched.
Oxytocin works differently on different parts of the body.
But one thing that men and women have in common is that this substance is the “binding hormone”.
The more you cuddle, the stronger the bond becomes (and is) between you and a man.
If the guy your date likes to hug you in any way, then you know he wants to keep your bond strong.
Or even want to make it stronger.
Can’t he touch you once the two of you are together?
Then he shows one of the most important characteristics of someone who is in love with a woman.
4. He Introduces You To His Friends
Sometimes men don’t want to be found dead with the woman they are dating.
They are shy or unsure whether the woman is “nice enough” to introduce to friends.
Plus, it’s often a sign that he doesn’t believe the relationship will last. So he prefers to avoid losing face with his friends.
With Men, Almost Everything Is About The Status
And if he feels like you are lowering that status, then he won’t introduce you to friends.
Does he introduce you to his friends?
Then he is proud of the woman he is dating.
He believes you are made for each other and he’s probably head over heels in love with you.
Is he telling you he wants to introduce you to his friends? Celebrate it in your mind with a bottle of expensive champagne.
It is perhaps the most important test of knowing if a man is in love with you.
5. He’ll Answer Your Texts Right Away
Some men hardly ever reply to the messages you send them or respond very curtly.
You show interest on your part, but you never get anything in return.
Chances are you’re dating someone you don’t appreciate. Or just not head over heels in love with you.
Do you have a man who immediately responds to your “Hey honey, where are you?” ?
Then be happy with what you have.
What He Is Doing At That Moment Is Apparently Worth Interrupting To Reassure You
Does he always respond quickly to your messages? Then you know that you are always worth more than whatever he is doing.
The fact that he reacts quickly does not mean that he has nothing to do in his life.
He just values you a lot and constantly checks his phone to see if he has received anything again from the one he is in love with.
What more can you ask for as a woman?
6. He Does Things Your Way
When a guy is not in love with you, he will do whatever he pleases.
He doesn’t take into account what you want.
He values his own feelings, needs, and desires more than yours at any time of the day.
But “our” way is not always the right way.
Sometimes you will make suggestions that are better than what he came up with.
Does He Appreciate Your Input And Therefore You As A Person?
Then he will take your advice seriously and maybe apply it himself.
He will not always try to be right or apply his way.
He will seriously listen to your solution to the problem at that time.
Is it a good idea? Then he applies it and you do it your way.
In fact, if he’s in love with you, he’ll be very happy that you guys are doing it your way.
In that moment he learned that he hooked up a woman who is more useful to him than he might initially think.
This will make him more in love.
7. He Goes With You To A Women’s Movie
Do you really want to know if he’s in love with you? Ask him to a “chick flick”.
You know, one of those women’s films that we men cannot stand.
And I’ll tell you a secret:
We will never be able to stand them.
Still, it doesn’t hurt to ask a man about such a film.
Why You Can Still Ask Him To A Women’s Film
If he’s in love with you, he’ll come along because he knows You will feel good about it.
Despite the fact that he probably knows he is going to fall asleep.
It makes you happy and if it means that he has to sacrifice an hour and a half of his life, so be it.
Ultimately, he knows it’s for a greater purpose:
Strengthen your bond.
This is a strong signal that a man is in love with you.
8. He Treats You Like A Real Lady
The problem with men today… is that they are no longer men.
Genetically it is all fine, but the behavior is not what it is.
Women want a man who can bring out their femininity.
A man that makes them feel more sensual.
A man with whom they feel protected.
Most Men These Days Treat Their Lady As If She Were Their Best Friend
Nice… but not what you want to experience as a woman.
Are you with a guy who makes you giggle like you’re still eight?
Are you with a guy who makes you feel like a sensual diva?
Are you with a guy who you feel like he has everything under control or can solve any possible problem?
Be happy with the man you have.
Men arouse these feelings in women they are in love with.
9. When He Talks About You With Full Pride
It sometimes seems like men aren’t proud of the women they date.
They never talk about you…
And when they talk about you, they talk about you with so little emotion, passion and joy that you can ask yourself if he is talking about his dream woman or about his homework.
The Way A Man Talks About You Says A Lot About What He Thinks Of You
Observe how he talks about you when he suddenly gets a call and has to say he’s with you at the time.
Is he saying it with a smile on his face?
Does he share important details about you?
Does the way he talks about you make you happy?
Then chances are you have a man who is in love with you.
We men only advertise something when we absolutely love it.
Is he subtly telling everyone that you are great?
Then that is a clear characteristic of someone who is in love.
10. He Sees Every Little Thing That You Are Really Good At
When you really like each other, you will learn to appreciate small qualities in each other.
For example, he will see that you are very good at packing suitcases when you travel.
Or he’ll feel you always trying to make him relax after he’s had a long day.
These are small things a man in love recognizes in a woman. He will therefore appreciate you extra.
If A Man Isn’t In Love With You, His Eyes Won’t See These Things
And if they do, he won’t really appreciate them. He will see them as something “just supposed to be”.
Oftentimes, a guy who’s in love with you will compliment you on those little crazy things you’re good at.
And he’s not ashamed to tell other people either. After all, he is proud of the lady he has.
11. He’s Not Mad At You For Too Long
No matter how great your relationship is, you will have arguments anyway.
In a utopian world, men and women may not have quarrels, but a good argument from time to time can’t hurt.
Either side can voice any built-up irritations, although it is better to voice irritations as soon as possible rather than wait for the bomb to burst.
But suppose you are in a situation where the bomb does burst.
Some Couples Stay Angry With Each Other For Days Or Even Weeks…
- Too stubborn
- Too insecure
- Too controlling
Whatever the reason, it’s stupid and immature.
A man who is in love with you will forgive you. And often quickly too.
Even When You’re The One Who’s Really Wrong…
Not so much because he likes to be walked all over him…
But because he is in love with you and understands that occasionally agreeing with you will only make the relationship better.
A man who does not always try to be right, but who is committed to what is better for the relationship is a “keeper”.
Few men are willing to do this.
So recognize this signal too and appreciate the guy you have or are dating.
12. He Remembers What You Say
Men’s memories sometimes resemble a sieve:
Whatever is thrown in, it comes out just as hard.
And especially things that don’t interest us.
Like women’s stories about:
- Drama by / with friends
- Drama with colleagues
- Something to do with shopping
- Something to do with a series
- Something about birthdays (especially those of family members)
But a few will remember these things.
He Will Not Only Remember Them But Even Come Up With Suggestions On How You Can Do It More Fun / More Often Or Better
Men who remember what you say, especially small quirky details, are men who really care about you.
A good sign of a man who is in love with you.
Because why would a man remember that as a child you once stole candy from the store and therefore never dared to come again.
Most men would laugh at such a story and forget it instantly.
A man who is in love with you will find it cute and fun.
If a man withholds everything from you, this is a very clear sign that he has a crush on you, but don’t worry if he doesn’t. Men are simply very bad at this.
13. He Listens To Your Needs
If he really loves you, he will often do everything he can to make you feel good.
- If you fall asleep on the couch in your cute way, he’ll put a blanket over you.
- If you are stressed from work or study, he will give you massages and hugs without even subtly hinting at them.
A Man Who Is In Love With A Woman Will Often Do A Lot To Make Her Feel Comfortable
It literally makes him happy when he sees you with a smile on your face.
The problem for most men is that they think about themselves too much. Especially if they don’t see you as someone they are going to share the rest of their future with.
It is then not “profitable” for them to do these things.
After all, they put their energy in a bottomless pit.
Do you have a man who takes good care of you and wants you to live a positive life every day?
Know that you have hooked up a man who shows an important characteristic of someone who is in love.
14. He Keeps Updating You
Many men are too busy with their own affairs.
They want to “do their thing” and don’t feel like sharing everything with other people.
Most men don’t tell the person they date very much.
He just doesn’t think it’s worth sharing events / cases / information like this with you.
If he still feels like you aren’t going to last long, why would he share anything with you?
Chances Are He Will Be Ashamed Of What He Does On A Daily Basis
He feels like you’re not going to take him seriously if he does tell you.
So he prefers to keep it to himself.
A man who is in love loves to share his life with you.
You are a part of his life, so how can he not share this with you.
He sees you as someone he can seriously brainstorm with or get advice from, so he likes nothing more than to discuss it with you.
These can be simple whatsapp messages during the day or when you are together.
You don’t have to ask for it.
If he’s really in love, he’ll bring it up himself.
15. He Likes To Spend Time With You
Not many things can separate a man from:
- His friends
- His football games
- His action movies
- His video games
It is not surprising that we men sometimes seem like children when you see the above list. It is not yet that we also want to play hide and seek.
Why A Man Would Rather Watch Football Than Spend Time With You?
Because unfortunately he values and enjoys watching football more than spending time with you.
Not the type of man you want in your life.
Do you have a guy who is willing to express the TV in order to spend more “quality time” with you?
Cherish such men.
Do everything you can to give them a good time too.
Why These Types Of Men Are Very Rare
Because you have found your soul mate.
He values you and your conversations more than a football game.
It may be difficult for women to understand…
But if a guy does this, then he’s very much in love with you.
16. You Are The First And Last Person He Speaks To On A Daily Basis
If you’re dating a guy who doesn’t like you very much, you will notice that he sends you a message very rarely.
There is no level to be raised.
You have no idea what he does all day long and why he never speaks up.
And if he does speak up, then it is not worth mentioning.
What This Says About The Guy You Are Dating
Do you have a man who never lets you know? Then chances are he is not in love with you.
He may of course be very busy and ambitious with his work or study. Only that chance is very small with the current generation of men.
How do you know if a man is in love with you?
He sends you a message when his day starts and talks to you before he goes to bed.
In other words:
- Nothing gives him a better start to the day than talking to you.
- Nothing gives him a better night’s sleep than talking to you.
Talkback to such a man too. He shows interest in you.
Don’t take his interest for granted and don’t play “hard to get” by not answering.
17. He Prefers You Over Everything Else As I Have Stated Earlier:
Some men value the football game they watch more than the woman they date.
This may work in the short term, but building something long-term is impossible.
No woman wants to feel like she is worth less than a football game with colored shirts and a ball.
And so most (potential) relationships fail.
But once in a while, you’ll date a guy who’s willing to throw everything aside for you.
Where You Can See That He Prefers You Above All Other Things
- Change plans with friends to be with you.
- Skipping his favorite activity to spend a little extra time with you.
- Staying up late with you despite having to get up early the next day.
These guys see you as number one.
A man doesn’t like to cancel his friends for anything.
Respect is very important to men.
And falling in respect in the eyes of his friends, every man will try to counteract as much as possible.
So cherish the man who is willing to take this risk for you.
He’s in love and crazy about you.
18. He Doesn’t Forget The Special Days
As indicated earlier:
Many men do not value “special days”.
Especially men who don’t see a future in you as a couple.
Special days such as birthdays or graduation ceremonies have little added value for a man.
Men Feel Emotions Much Less Intensely Than Women
So also an emotion such as joy.
A lot of friends of mine don’t celebrate their own birthday. And certainly not someone else’s.
In addition, half also do not show up at their own graduation ceremony.
So you can imagine how “excited” they are when you tell us your best friend’s birthday is coming soon.
Or that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner.
Men just don’t care.
Unless you’re dating a man who knows and feels that YOU do care.
Despite the fact that he may not enjoy it, he will celebrate these special days with you… because of you.
He wants you to feel good and he understands that you enjoy moments like this.
No better sign that you’ve hooked up with a guy who’s in love with you.
19. You’re The Only Lady He Gives Romantic Attention To
Imagine the scenario that you go out together.
It is very tempting for a man to talk and flirt with other women.
After all, he can get even more attention from women than he gets from you now.
In his eyes it is a win-win:
He Can Flirt With Other Women And Then Go Home With You At The End Of The Night
Do you have such a man?
Then there is a good chance that he will not be loyal in the long term.
Chances are even greater than he’s no longer in love with you… if he has been at all.
But are you dating a guy who only gives you attention all night?
Just want to dance and talk with you despite the dazzlingly beautiful women around you?
Would you rather have a drink with you than with his friends? Then that man attaches great value to you.
He sincerely enjoys with you.
You can say with a lot of certainty that he is also in love with you.
20. He Shows Affection In Public
Many men are like robots in a relationship:
They do everything emotionally and without any kind of passion.
Especially in public.
It must all be structured and it is not possible to go “crazy” once.
After all, he is afraid of losing respect in the eyes of the people who see him at the time.
You can see this very nicely on Saturdays:
Couples Shopping Together With The Man Walking Next To The Woman Like A Zombie…
… those are men who will also show little to no affection or emotion in public.
Instead of showing people how much fun he is with you, he prefers to show that you are a “regular” couple.
But honestly… who just wants to be there?
Who wants a regular relationship?
I don’t know about you… but I want a great relationship.
A guy who has a crush on you and knows he’s in a great relationship will want to show that to everyone in public too.
He likes to touch you and has no problem kissing you in public.
Men who are in love with you like to do this.
They like to show other people that they have hooked up with a great woman.
21. He’s Showing Signature Signs Of A Man In Love
Much of our behavior as humans is very unconscious.
If a man doesn’t see a future in you, he’ll subconsciously be a terrible bastard.
If a man does see a future in you, he will unconsciously display behavior showing this.
Are you walking into a busy crowd? Then he will subconsciously hold your hand just a little tighter.
He doesn’t want to lose you. Literally and figuratively.
Do you cross the street together? Then he will put his hand on your back or shoulder to let you cross safely.
He Does It Unconsciously
Does he believe you are incapable of crossing alone?
Of course not.
But this kind of behavior is exhibited by a man who is in love with a woman and is not driven by lust.
He does it all unconsciously. So his real motivation comes up at times like this.
Do you recognize moments like this with the man you date?
Then take a breath and put a smile on your face.
You got a good one.
22. He Doesn’t Mind When You Tease Him When He’s Busy
Some men are very focused on their goals.
- They want to make something of themselves in life.
- They do everything they can to achieve those goals.
- They try to remove as many distractions as possible from their lives. No Facebook, Instagram or funny videos of cats playing the piano.
As a woman, you should only encourage this.
But you probably do.
You now have experience with men and you know that there are few who really have ambition or want to make something of themselves.
Yet you also want a man who doesn’t just work.
You Want A “Work Hard, Play Hard” Man
He should also be able to talk to you every now and then, of course.
And that is sometimes lacking in men who really have ambition.
They often get irritated if you tease or tickle them while working.
There may even be a snarling comment. While you have done nothing wrong at all.
If a guy is crazy about you, he understands that you should also be able to mess around with the lady you date from time to time.
If you tickle him, he tickles you back.
If you want to play around, he will show you all corners of the room (you can interpret this sentence in different ways).
He sees 15 minutes with your talk as relaxation instead of a waste of time or a distraction.
A very good sign that a man is in love with you.
23. He’s Protective
This one might sound a bit annoying, but it’s a good thing nonetheless.
Men who are protective are often control freaks.
They don’t want anything to happen to you.
There are several reasons for this. But that the man cares about you is one thing for sure.
Some men you date don’t care if you’re walking down a dark alley alone. Or what time you get home.
These men are not in love with you.
If they don’t ask you to message them when you get home safely or make comments like “take care of yourself” when you go on a trip, they may not care much about you.
And Man Is Naturally Very Protective Of “His Wife”
After all, she’s going to give birth to his children one day and if he really feels like you two are a match, he’ll do everything he can to keep you healthy.
As primitive as this may sound in today’s society.
So think of it as a positive thing when a guy tries to protect you.
It’s in the nature of the guys.
And the guy is in love with you and means well. Even though he does not always know how to communicate this.